Getting Used to Eating Paleo
Shifting your dietary framework is psychologically stressful. Food has such powerful cultural and personal contextual association. We eat when we're around family, and what we eat with family helps us define our culture. We eat when we're celebrating, when we mourn, and when we come together after a long absence. The foods we eat create a sense of home and a sense of identity. They make us feel safe.
So naturally, adopting Paleo (or vegetarianism, veganism, kashrut, or any other diertary framework) means more than shopping for different foods in the grocery store. It means confronting fears about whether we can have stuffing and mashed potatoes at Thanksgiving, whether we can eat some of our own wedding cake, whether we can break bread on the sabbath, and even whether we feel like we belong when we share meals with family and friends.
Admittedly, I had less of a struggle with this. I had previously been vegetarian for years. I had limited my meat consumption to Certified Humane meats that I have good-faith reason to believe lived a happy life and faced a dignified death. My family and friends are used to my diet shifting, and they've been amazingly accommodating. My Grandmère saw making matzoh ball soup with humanely raised chicken as a way to show her love, and at pot luck suppers in my circles of friends people include a little sign next to their dishes to make sure people know it's "gluten-free, soy-based, non-dairy, contains nuts." I'm not the norm.
My girlfriend is Cuban. That means rice and black bean soup - neither of which are Paleo. In her mother's house, that also meant Campbell's Chicken with Stars or ramen noodle soup any time she felt ill - she still craves those comfort foods even though she's moved out. Since we've both gone Paleo (and her brother too), her mom has been amazing at making sure there's always "dinosaur diet" compatible food around. But still the transition was more psychologically stressful for her than for me.
So usually when considering a dietary framework, the first thing people see are the things you can't have - the things you're giving up. "I have to give up bread? But I have a bagel every morning!" "I can't drink my coffee black - I need cream and sugar!" "But we go out for sushi every Sunday night - now you're saying I can't have rice?" Within that mindset, we approach new diets in ways that emphasize our dissatisfaction. When I was vegetarian, I looked for meat substitutes, and certainly there's a whole sector of the food industry that's spawned veggie burgers, veggie dogs, veggie sausage, veggie bacon and more. I've generally found the more we try to live with these substitutes, trying to cram our new dietary framework into our old recipe book, the more dissatisfied we are with the change. Veggie bacon just can't compete.
Cooking is one of my arts - not to say I'm any good, but it's certainly something I explore with passion. I love the kitchen, and I love how food has this incredible potential to be a medium of love. Every time I craft a dish and arrange the food delicately on the plate in a crudely amateurish attempt at skillful presentation, it's my way of saying to my family I love them. And seeing them plow through a meal I've made because it's so delicious to them floods me with a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
The way to see yourself to happiness in a new dietary framework is to learn how to cook all over again - not the mechanics of it, but the approach to creating flavor combinations. A traditional western kitchen has in its flavor arsenal sweet, creamy, savory, and salty as its mainstays. Mix any two of them together and you've got a crowd pleaser - a pork loin in an apple honey glaze, tequila lime shrimp in sour cream, candied bacon. In Paleo, you can't rely on sweet or creamy the same way. My first week cooking strictly Paleo involved a lot of savory and a lot of salty. It got boring really fast.
So I had to start over. I had to reapproach flavors, relook at different cultural traditions for inspiration, and come up with a new set of flavor families I could rely upon - ones that aren't used as regularly in more mainstream kitchens. So this series is my way of sharing some flavors and ingredients I've discovered (and rediscovered) that keep my cooking interesting and my family sending clean plates to the dishwasher. You can track this series by the tag paleokitchen.
Vinegar and the Joy of Acidity
Most vinegar comes from over-fermenting a sugary liquid. The sugar is fermented to ethanol, then the ethanol is fermented into acetic acid. Paleo is agnostic on vinegar - obviously the sweeter the vinegar the more problematic is becomes nutritionally. Balsamic vinegar is made from fortified wine, and the less they let the sugar acidify, the sweeter the vinegar but the less Paleo it is. But vinegar doesn't have to be sweet to be delicious. Vinegar's acidity helps us explore the tart spectrum of our flavor palate. It can be used in marinades to tenderize meats, in salads as part of a dressing, or on vegetables as part of the core flavor mixture.
Asparagus and Mushroom Tapas
Tapas provide a safe haven for both Paleo cooks and diners. Most dishes are prepared in olive oil, rich in monounsaturated fats. Garlic is used liberally, and most plates can be composed entirely from meats, vegetables, and spices. While portions may be small, the flavors are always rich and varied. In this vegetarian tapas dish, the dill weed brings out the flavor of the asparagus while the mushrooms soak up the olive oil and vinegar, complementing the otherwise mild vegetable with an accent of tart acidity.
The recipe:
- 1 bunch of asparagus, trimmed and quartered
- 1 pint of cremini mushrooms, quartered
- 1 tsp of fresh dill weed, chopped
- 2 cloves of garlic, sliced thinly
- 1/8 cup of olive oil
- 1/8 cup of white wine or champagne vinegar
- sea salt and pepper to taste
Heat the olive oil in a skillet on medium-high heat. Add mushroom quarters and sauté until they begin to brown, about 2 minutes. Add asparagus and garlic, and continue to sauté until cooked tender, about 2 minutes. Toss dill weed into the mix, then drizzle vinegar onto vegetables while turning them to coat evenly. Simmer for about a minute. Once most of the excess liquid has been absorbed or evaporated, pull the skillet off the heat and serve immediately.







